Over the years I’ve encountered many different reactions from people when they learn that I’m a girl that likes other girls. One such reaction is curiosity, which often leads to a familiar game of 20 questions on how to be a lesbian. This barrage of questions might have annoyed me in my younger days, but I’ve come to learn that curiosity is often a sign of tolerance and if we can help feed that curiosity,it grows into understanding & acceptance.
So, What’s the One Thing You Really Want to Know?
That being said, what’s the one thing you want to know about what it’s like to be a lesbian? Based on previous experience, many of you are curious about how lesbians have sex. Or in some cases, you wonder, CAN two girls have sex? Yes, they absolutely can and I’m here to try my hand at explaining how. In an attempt to keep this from exceeding an “R” rating, we’ll use “chipmunk” in place of another word throughout the rest of this article.
Feeding the Curiosity: Lesbian Sex 101
Let’s begin by debunking a few common myths. First, scissoring as a lesbian sex act is a common misconception. Girls do NOT violently bang their “chipmunks” together like they’re fighting over an acorn. A female’s largest sex organ is her brain, so emotionless chipmunk fighting is out. Additionally, this idea of girls taking turns kissing one another’s chipmunks…is…yeah, ok, that one’s not a myth. So your first lesbian sex act is revealed, no shocker there, the conventional lesbian sex act does in fact include various acts of oral “chipmunk” stimulation.
Another widely accepted lez-activity requires the use of a strap-on. Much to my surprise, upon learning of this lesbian sex-capade, a common response has been:
If you want that, why not just sleep with a guy?
This is the equivalent of asking the following of a gay man:
If you want somewhere to stick it, why not just sleep with a girl?
Or asking a straight man:
Why not just sleep with boys? A hole’s a hole, right?
These seem like silly statements, right? Well, it’s an equally silly question when talking about lesbians. Yes, the physiology is the same regardless of who you are attracted to because we are all made up of the same parts. But human attraction is much more complicated and the key is in the WHO. I might want some of the same things as my straight female counterparts, but I want my girlfriend to do them to me and the fact that she’s a she, makes all the difference! Does it make a difference to you who does those naughty things to you?
Ok, this is a big topic and we still have more lesbian sex acts to cover, but you’ll have to stay tuned for the rest!
To be Continued….