There are many types of triangles. There are acute triangles and right triangles, but when it comes to a love triangle, there is nothing cute or right about it. As we take a look back in history, the triangle has never been a positive symbol. A pink triangle was used to identify gay members in a concentration camp. Many people were rumored to have disappeared in the Bermuda Triangle. With all of this history behind us, some people never learn and decide to become part of another triangle known as a love triangle.
The secret to understanding the love triangle is breaking it down into its separate pieces. The person in the relationship doing the cheating is point A of the triangle, the “other man” is point B and the person in the relationship being cheated on is point C.
Point A – The Cheater
This is the person in the triangle that holds most of the power and is responsible for creating it. Many people believe this person cheats because there is something lacking in the relationship. This is just an excuse to push the blame onto someone else, and it’s so much deeper than that.
People cheat mostly due to three reasons. The first reason is their sense of loyalty is different, due to how they were raised or something happening in their past. It’s this skewed definition of loyalty that gives them justification to cheat, so they feel less guilty or not guilty at all. Their definition of loyalty is almost impossible to change, so that’s why I say once a cheater always a cheater.
The next reason is they think it will boost their ego. They believe the more people they sleep with, the more of a stud they will be, but really they just look like a slut.
Finally, they choose to cheat because the fear of the unknown and cowardliness. It’s easier for someone to cheat and ask for forgiveness, than it is to ask for permission in the first place. They like the idea of being able to sleep with other people, but also like the comfort of having that boyfriend to fall back on. Also, they are afraid that if they break up with their current boyfriend, there is a possibility they may end up alone. It’s this fear that keeps them from just ending the relationship, so they choose to cheat instead.
Point B- The Other Man
This person sometimes doesn’t know that point A is already seeing someone, but a majority of the time they do. Point B has it’s own reasons for entering into it.
Point B enters into the triangle because they want to sabotage others’ relationships since all of their own have been unsuccessful. They enter into one out of stupidity because they believe that the cheater would never cheat on them, even though their behavior speaks otherwise. Finally, they do so out of competition because they believe they are competing against the boyfriend for point A. The only outcome of this is Point B may win Point A, but then they become a different part of the triangle known as point C where they will become the one getting cheated on.
Point C- The Cheated On
A lot of times this person doesn’t even know its happening, but eventually they always find out. In a triangle, a line connects point C and point B. They are connected, and that line symbolizes the inevitability of C finding out about the other man. Once C is aware of the triangle, they either hopefully end it, or unfortunately decide to continue to participate in it. They choose to do so for a few reasons.
They continue because they think they are too good of a person to ever be cheated on, so they don’t believe it. They continue due to low self esteem and believe that they deserve it or it’s their fault. Finally they refuse to trust their instincts. You need to realize that anyone can be cheated on. If you have low self esteem, then the cheater will manipulate this flaw of yours to their advantage.
You must always trust your instincts. If you have a feeling something is going on, then you’re probably right. People can have so much evidence of infidelity but are so blinded by love, that they need a confession before they will believe it.
If you are experiencing less sex with your boyfriend, if he gets jealous when you innocently talk to other guys, if they take forever to get back to you when you call on several occasions especially when they are the type of person who is always checking their phone, and if they are very protective or secretive when it comes to messages from other people, then they are probably cheating. Trust your instincts and confront them. If you don’t, you’ll eventually look stupid in the end.
In conclusion, love triangles are never successful. The Pythagorean theorem for triangles is A^2 + B^2 = C^2. The Pythagorean theorem of love triangles states (Allegiance)^2 + (Betrayal)^2 = (Cheating)^2. This means that cheating equals an allegiance to your boyfriend plus a betrayal. This betrayal changes the allegiance because it removes the trust from it. A relationship or allegiance without trust will be full of paranoia, jealousy and a lot of conflict. That’s why these types of relationships never work out.
Point A, if you are involved in a love triangle, rhombus or octagon depending on how slutty you are, then you need to stop being selfish and end it. Point B, stop being stupid. Basically your relationship with point A is like someone who refuses to get off welfare, it will never work. Point C, when it comes to the cheater saying he’s sorry for what he did remember this, asking for forgiveness after you have cheated is like trying to buy something off QVC after you DVR it, it’s too late.